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Habits Bartenders Actually Dislike

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Although you are out for a fun-filled evening, bartenders have jobs to do. Here are some tips for avoiding the most typical etiquette errors so everyone has a fun day.

In movies about bartending, the scenes usually have one guy polishing a lone glass in the background while listening to everyone's worries, and another with skimpily dressed bartenders dancing on a bar. However, most bartenders are highly skilled, effective professionals who work to offer a service; none of those things is part of their job description. I hope you are aware of that. However, are you aware of the guidelines for being a truly courteous customer?

Certain "polite habits" in bars aren't exactly as courteous as you may believe, even if you're avoiding the obvious faux pas, leaving generous tips, and doing the things that most people find offensive. Furthermore, just like restaurant employees, bartenders may smile and put up with your manners errors, but it doesn't imply they enjoy it! Furthermore, these errors may seriously hinder their ability to do their duties. Here are some things to avoid and what to do instead, whether you're at your favorite dive bar, a hip hotel bar, or a bar on a cruise liner.

1. Asking them to do a shot with you

By requesting that they take a shot with you, Every single bartender we spoke with stated that they wished people would quit doing this as the most "polite" habit. Lea Miner, a bartender at a Colorado restaurant, says, "I understand that you're offering because you want to be nice and have me join in the party, but you're on your own time and I'm working." "I'd be wasted within the first hour of my shift if I took a shot with every customer who asked." Although most pubs have a policy prohibiting bartenders from drinking while working, the woman notes that "it's 50/50 whether or not it actually gets enforced."

2. Picking up your drink before they give it to you

Pouring a beer on tap only needs you to fill the glass, but mixing a cocktail is an artistic endeavor that involves adding garnishes and other finishing touches. According to Miner, "I take great pride in making unique cocktails that look as good as they taste, and I want the guest to have the whole experience." Though you might feel helpful to take it at that time, especially if the bar is busy, many customers believe the cocktail is finished once the liquid is added. However, this detracts from the overall experience. Since you're actually taking something that the bartender is still holding, it's also impolite.

3. Cleaning up broken glass

Put down your drink? It's acceptable—mishaps occur. However, before you go down on the floor to clean it up, give it some thought. "It is not appropriate for inebriated individuals to be responsible for gathering shattered glass," asserts Manhattan speakeasy bartender Antonio Hernandez. It's possible for you to cut yourself or hurt someone else, which is not only unpleasant but also dangerous for the club.

Instead, take this action: the author says, "Just let us know about the issue and let the staff take care of it." "We can complete it quickly and effectively, and we have the tools necessary to do it right."

4. Itemizing and splitting a tab

One person opening a tab for the entire group is not unusual, and it's a courteous method to keep things easy for the bartender. But things might get complicated when it comes time to pay. Asking them to split the bill evenly between two or three credit cards is quite courteous, but don't ask your bartender to break up the check by drink. (For example, asking them to charge Jane's card for a glass of wine and a margarita, Bob's card for three beers, Jill's card for two mojitos, and so on.) Most bartenders will agree that , "This is too complicated for us to sort out, especially during a rush."

Instead, take this action: Ideally, one person should shut the tab so that the others can Venmo that individual. Our recommendation is that if you know that you will need the tab divided up, have each person open their own tab.

5. Stuffing napkins, straw wrappers or other trash into your cup

It is considerate of you to tidy up the mess in front of you, and the wait staff and bartenders would certainly appreciate it. However, putting everything in a glass may appear controlled and neat, but it really makes work harder. Most bartenders agree, "I have to fish soggy napkins out of the used glasses with my fingers now."

Instead, take out your trash and place it inside the nearest trash can you come across. If not, collect the garbage and place it in a mound on the table rather than putting it into your used glasses. In addition, this is polite dining behavior in Italian restaurants and almost anywhere else.

6. Telling them your life story

Given their reputation for kindness and empathy, you could consider it an honor to confide in bartenders about your issues. It's a win-win situation because they could also utilize the firm, isn't it? Not precisely. They are not therapists, to begin with. Furthermore, they're productive! Customers may occasionally insist on keeping them company for the duration of my shift, However, even though They may value the effort, they are rarely beneficial and may cause the bartender to miss out on tips

7. Asking them out

When you received your card back, did the adorable bartender give you a particular grin or touch your hand? Does that imply a personal like for you? Most likely not. Miner responds, "We don't want to go home with you. We're not into you, and we're not flirting with you." Being polite and friendly is a component of what we do. That concludes it.

Don't inquire about their residence or the time they get off. That may come out as spooky or even dangerous. The flight attendants would also prefer that you refrain from acting in this way.

Instead, take this action: Don't ever think that the bartender is making out with you. Giving them your number on a casual date is acceptable, though, if you want to take the risk of creating your own meet-cute tale.

8. Reaching over or behind the bar to grab something quickly

Your empty glasses are piling up, and you can see the bussing station right behind the bar. Or perhaps you just need to grab an extra straw, and you know where they’re kept behind the counter. Maybe you’d just like an extra lemon, and it’s right there. Instead of wasting the busy bartender’s time, it’s fine to just quickly dart or reach behind the bar and grab what you need, right? “Wrong. Always wrong,”

Instead, ask a waiter or busser to assist you if you need your table cleared. Wait your turn before asking for anything from the bar if you need it.

9. Buying a round of drinks

Pour your pals a round of drinks! Salutations! As long as you know what everyone wants, the bartender will be more than happy to make it happen. Purchasing drinks for others is fun and kind.

Instead, take this action: Before you approach the bar, consult with your party to determine what each person wants. Be ready to order drinks for everyone at the bar at once. After that, you can unwind and consider the ideal toast to raise in honor of your partner.

10. Using beverage napkins to clean up a spill

Accidents happen, and it's a good idea to have a few napkins handy to clean up any spills. What isn't it? Hernandez describes "grabbing the whole stack of cocktail napkins off the bar and throwing it on a large puddle." "Thank you for the assistance, but those cocktail napkins are expensive. We have bar mops and rags for just this purpose."

Instead, take this action: Point out the issue to a waiter, host, busser, or bartender. They'll get the cleaning materials out.

11. Handing them a wad of cash

You might assume it makes sense to give the bartender cash on busy evenings and let them finish the bill whenever they have a moment to spare. However, this isn't the best concept you believe it to be. Joe says, "There are times when people just give me a bunch of cash and say, 'This is for the bill; keep the rest for your tip.'" And these are typically the individuals who defraud us of our money. When calculating the bill plus tip, it's easy to make an error—even if you're not attempting to be dishonest.

Instead, take this action: Give the cash to the bartender, then watch as they count it and close the tab. Next, give a gratuity. Note: Depending on the type of bar and where you are, there may be varying expectations on tipping etiquette. For example, tipping is often not expected at all-inclusive resorts, although it is still a great gesture.

If you know exactly what you want, order it right away. If you’re unsure, look at the menu first, before asking questions. The same is true of as reflected in our article on steakhouse etiquette.


This article was written by Michael R. Grigsby, one of the news editors for LCTI, LLC. Michael is passionate about the outdoors, photography, strength sports, bodybuilding, and powerlifting, and he is dedicated to bringing you accurate and insightful news reports on a wide range of topics. He loves connecting with readers and is always happy to answer any questions you may have. If you have any questions about this news article, please feel free to contact Michael or by leaving a comment below.

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